Keeping secrets

Question: A friend of my child has disclosed some personal information to her. She doesn’t know what to do with this info. Neither do I! But I feel I should do something. Help! You don’t say what area the information falls into so this reply will be in relation to commonly reported sensitive situations involving … Read more

Whining and whingeing

Question: My child has started whining for things and about things. The sound just gets on my nerves. I know I am over-reacting. Got any ideas? Call it what you like- moaning, complaining, grumbling, bleating, belly-aching, being grumpy, griping and sounding querulous- it gets every parent’s attention and jangles your nerves. This grating voice is … Read more

Pushing buttons

Question: My child answers back and it’s driving me crazy! Any suggestions? Back-chat is very frustrating and every parent reading this blog will be full of sympathy. It is a common problem. It stems partly from the child asserting their independence, exerting control and testing out the boundaries. The unspoken agenda is ‘How much will … Read more

So Embarrassed!

Question:   I’m so embarrassed. My child picks the worst time and place to make a scene. How do I react and manage this crisis? Answer: All parents have those moments when you want the ground to open up and swallow you. Usually this is when your child has behaved so badly or said something … Read more

Liar, liar, pants on fire


Question: I think telling the truth is very important. This was stressed to me when I was little but my child lies and I don’t know how to get them out of it. Answer: We like to think that our children always tell the truth but the reality is that most children will experiment with … Read more

Is arguing a bad thing?

AskingMarilyn - I consider us a happy family unit. But sometimes we argue. Does this have a negative effect upon the children?

I consider us a happy family unit. But sometimes we argue. Does this have a negative effect upon the children? Answer: All parents have arguments. And arguments come in different shapes and sized- e.g. some are frequent low-level arguments, some the occasional major confrontation, some are loud and antagonistic, some are silent and brooding. This … Read more

A Letter from Marilyn

AskingMarilyn - A letter from Marilyn to you

Dear Parent, Thankyou for reading my newsletters during 2017. I hope they have brought you comfort and new understanding and that you have tried some of the solutions. If you have younger children, you may have read the teenage ones with interest. They may have sown a seed that you can grow for this next … Read more